we were kind to each other, rather than nasty like most children. Just little childish kisses, little pecks on the lips because we thought it was fun. We used to kiss sometimes, when we were kids. As soon as we understood what gay was, we knew that's what I was. Since we were, like, ten or eleven, maybe. Get my Emergency Breakup Kit or my Emergency Marriage Kit to guide you to getting your ex back based on my two decades in the relationship-recovery service.“He knew I was gay for ages," he said, his voice soft. So be sure to watch the video above if you haven’t and remember that just because your ex is silent it doesn’t mean that all hope is lost. If they reached out to you, though I do not recommend that you ignore your ex, it can have a diluting impact on the situation because there is some relief when he/she interacts with you.Īgain, you’d rather have that then what can happen if you ignore them. The silence of your ex makes the no contact rule even stronger. That fear that you could be moving on or at least are strong enough to stay away from them. So at some point your ex looks down at their phone and sees it’s been 35 days. Your ex being silent, however, is actually helping your chances of getting back together with him/her.Įvery silent day that passes is another day that your ex has to witness. The reason they might be fighting interacting with you is because, as I mentioned above, your ex might be silent because he/she wants to wait and see how they feel at a point in the future rather than risk having to break up with you again. He/she might not trust themselves when interacting with you because they are experiencing intense feelings of loss and regret that they broke up with you. Sometimes silence means that the other person is highly impacted by what is going on.įor example, if your ex was just cool and casual with this breakup and life in general, it wouldn’t be a big deal for them to contact you.īut your ex is possibly experiencing some difficulty. Just because you haven’t heard from your ex doesn’t not mean that your ex is living a joyous existence without you, convinced that breaking up with you was the right thing to do.
So I want you to gather from those three possibilities I mentioned (which aren’t the only possibilities) that just because you aren’t hearing from your ex right now, that it’s not necessarily the end of your chances of getting back together with him/her. Three: Your ex is doubting his/her decision to break up with you but figures that some space and time apart would be the best thing right now. So he/she is waiting to see how they feel in the days/weeks/months ahead to keep from making a potential bad decision. In other words, your ex broke up with you but now misses you and is wanting you back but doesn’t want to lead you on if their feelings are going to change again. Two: Your ex is hurting and missing you but doesn’t want to jump back in because they don’t trust themselves. One: Your ex is still in the relief stage that usually follows them breaking up with you (see my post, “ Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact“). So your ex isn’t contacting you at this moment for a couple of different possibilities:
You already knew that the heart of your ex wasn’t where you wanted it to be or else they wouldn’t have broken up with you. That’s the bad news, but you likely already knew that to a degree.
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